Risking What You KNOW to be True about Love
Over the past few weeks, I’ve had full circle conversations with a number of past clients.
None of them knew what was possible when they had reached out to me.
Each of their journeys invited them to risk facing what they knew to be true about love to be able to have the BIG Life they came to live on their own terms.
I hadn’t seen one of the clients for over a decade, and we caught up through zoom. She was able to share how foundational our work was with allowing her to fully show up in her friendships and meet and marry her partner.
Photo: of my Stan Smith trainers walking to a training for Embodied Relational Sex Therapy with Dr. Stella Resnick in Los Angles and finding “RISK LOVE” stencil spray painted on the sidewalk in 2019.
Another past client shared how pivotal learning that she was NOT her emotions was. This helped her to navigate a complex ongoing dynamic with her husband where they had both showed up with their trauma patterns and learned to disentangle from them. They both had to risk loyalty around loyalty and disconnection. By dissolving intergenerational patterns around worthiness, mattering, and letting go of who they thought they were or told to be, they had to commit to staying in their own lanes and also accepting each other as who they were and who they were becoming.
Her friends often ask how she was able to become so present to the dualities of her life and path, and she would tell them about me as her past psychotherapist.
This led to a meaningful conversation that even though I’m no longer practicing as a psychotherapist, I’ve always been me. Through coaching, I’m able to support clients, including men and couples, more fully because I don’t have to hold back who I really am, which is a guide and healer.
Over the past month, I’ve been busy writing a lot about navigating love and rewriting my website copy. I was published twice in Well + Good, a decade long dream come true here and here. If you know me, you can imagine how detailed my pitches were. If you’d like me to publish a substack on either topic, hit reply and let me know (include any specific questions too).
As I’ve been deeply reflecting on love and transformation in writing, conversations with past and current clients, and the women of the Year of Quarterly Retreats, I wanted to share some questions for you to journey with risking love too.
Questions to Journey with around Risking Love
These questions can be revisited in a few rounds.
You can move, meditate, be in nature, journey, or engage with them from the most honest and present place of you being honest with you.
Round 1: Self-Love
Round 2: Friendship Love
Round 3: Partnership/Romantic Love
Round 4: Family of Origin and Lineage/Ancestral Love
*What is your relationship with certainty around love?
*What do you believe to be absolutely true?
*Love is often coupled with many things unconsciously. What is paired for you with love? Power/powerlessness? Loneliness? Defiance? Control?
*What outcomes do the Love Truths create?
*What would you need to risk acknowledging or accepting for safe, vibrant, equal Love to be possible?
I don’t believe that you should be expected to know how to shift intergenerational patterns around something as complex as love, even if you understand it.
You deserve to be fully supported by skilled guide who can help you move from knowing to dissolving and releasing the patterns and creating the capacity to safely love and be loved on your True Self’s terms.
I’d love to support you on your journey of risking what you know to be true about love to really receive and discover what is possible for you. Email me amy@amybabish.com to schedule a complimentary 20 minute call of how we might work together